This weekend I wrote three dramatically different posts. A style post, a life update/ feelings/reflections post, and this post.
I thought to myself, this blog is getting a little schitzo (don’t worry, I can say that as I also suffer from various mental illnesses). I fretted, thought about asking David what to do, and then though, “well shit, if you can’t express yourself completely on your own blog, there isn’t much hope”. So this week we have the three previously mentioned posts, plus a few straggler gift guides and other bits of inspiration.
As you might have noticed I am delving into fashion blogging one tiny step at a time. It makes sense for me in a lot of ways. Planning outfits and styling myself and others is a very important and joyful part of my life. I have often thought that I would love to be a stylist or a personal shopper. When I delved into personal shopping a few years back, I LOVED it. There is nothing like helping someone feel good in their own skin and celebrate clothes. On the other hand…
I am in recovery from an eating disorder and this girl’s body dysmorphia just won’t quit. My weight changes constantly and I don’t know exactly where I fit in. There seems to still be a divide between the curvy girl blogs and the rest of the bloggers, and I am not sure how I feel about that. Not to mention that in the land of internets, it is a little scary to put yourself out there and provide a forum where people might want to criticize you. Luckily, this is just a little baby blog, so most of my visitors are kind and gracious. I know that every “curvy” or “plus-sized” blog that I follow makes me incredibly happy and inspired. I am on the cusp, in terms of my size. There are times in my life where I am solidly plus and times where I fall below that. No matter what size I am, feeling stylish, getting decked out, and enjoying fashion are always important to me. So, I am doing this people. At least once a week I plan to post outfit pics. My experience so far in taking the pics and choosing which to share has been a mixed bag. David helps me by taking the photos, which is awesome. I have cried, laughed, been fearless, been uncomfortable. I have wanted to photoshop the shit out of myself. I won’t, though. No worries. If one person who is feeling self-conscious (no matter what their size) sees that I am doing this and feels a little better, I will be happy. One thing that always sticks with me from my time in treatment is that you can be a size 0 or a size 20 and be equally uncomfortable in your body. And by uncomfortable, I mean pure hatred and loathing. The truth is, it is not a cliche to say “we only live once”. It is the fucking truth as far as I can discern, and I want to live happily. In honor of this venture here are some of my favorite curvy gal blogs:
Favorite Plus-Size Fashion Blogs
- Nicolette Mason: I have been convinced for a while now that we would be best friends. Or at least enjoy scouring the world together for whimsical fashion and all things glittery. Besides her rad looks, I love her thoughtful commentary on fashion and blogging. I have re-read this post about a thousand times. Go there now and read it too! Fascinating.
- GabiFresh: Style in spades. Like Nicolette, she breaks the rules for curvy gals, and you never questions her for a minute. Great things are happening for her at the moment, so it’s the perfect time to start following!
- Jay Miranda: New mom, fashion blogger, philosopher. This blog is all over the place in the best way. It’s kinda a happy place for me.
- The Curvy Blogger: Mandy is an up and comer who should be on your must watch radar!
- Girl With Curves: Tanesha is consistently stunning! Such an inspiration for me, I just love her style, her go-get-it attitude, and her adoration of leopard.
- Born in Sequins: Brittney scores major points in my book for her blog name alone. I love her eclectic style and willingness to just go for it. Her writing is poingnent and fun.
- Francetta Johnson (formerly Frantic Dreams): Pure love for this gal. I haven’t been able to get this look out of my mind for months! Her “Girl of My Dreams” series is fab.